SO, it's time for a quick wrap up.  First off Christmas was very nice. All were happy with their gifts.  We didn't go broke and there was peace in the house.  Went to church and watched the little ones in a Christmas Pageant...absolute SWEETNESS! 

 

Now to get to something that I had been trying to be gracious about since Christmas Eve.  Now DH and I wound up getting our Sister in-law a $50 gift card to a clothing store that had a good idea she would like a lot.  We were content with ourselves. Even though my gut told me that this terry robe and slippers that I had spied the night before was a better bet (make note of this). I mean it was well made, kind of plush, and it would have fit beautifully.  But DH was not hearing me.  Hence we arrived at the gift certificate idea. WELL my brother in law came by Christmas Eve to pick up the gifts for him, his wife and the girls(BTW They LOVED the Build a Bear gift cards...well at least the 11 year old did, the little one has no clue.lol).  In turn he dropped off their gifts to us.   Okay, this may sound horrible, but I really don't give a sh*t!  I've been holding my tongue on this.  And even though I'm not about the price of a gift and what not, I am BIG on the thought.  And I must say what they did was some thoughtless tackiness the likes that I have never been privy to personally.  Here we go!

1.  There are 4 people that live here, why were two given gifts and the other two not acknowledged ( The other two being THE KIDS!).

2. Is it appropriate to buy a grown assed man some cotton jersey boxers?

3. If you are going to give a gift in a gift bag....GET SOME DAMN TISSUE PAPER. ( NOTE: I get crazy with gift wrap, even gift bags.  I do ribbons, tissue paper, candy canes etc.  People love getting a gift, not matter how big, small , great or not  when it's presented in a fun way.. because why? BECAUSE IT SHOWS SOME THOUGHT AND PERSONAL CARE!!!!)

4. Why did I get an ugly pseudo fleece( ie. feels like something one stuffs into a packing box when shipping fargile items via Fed Ex...cotton bally if you will) sky blue techicolor polka dot robe and matching slippers that were OH I don't know 4 sizes too big?  Screw the one size fits all sh*t, NOT TRUE!!!!

Okay, so it was terribly obvious that the minute they found out we had gifts for them they grabbed whatever and literally chucked it in to bags.  Now, I know this may sound petty BUT, it was tacky as sin!  Take in to account we gave thought and put care in to each gift we gave.  W gave not looking for or expecting anything in return.  In fact we would have rather not gotten anything.  When you give a sh*t gift, not a sh*t gift meaning it's something the receive doesn't like, but a gift that you put no heart or give a damn into....You're telling that person that you don't regard them much.  NOW, it would also not be so bad if we didn't have to hear about the off the wall expensive gadgets that they all gave and received from one another.  I mean...HELLO, the woman does not go anywhere, she doesn't work, and when she has...does it's not the kind of work that requires a Blackberry.  WTF?  I guess e-mailing jokes and baby pictures requires high end technology these days ( No bitterness I got some hot techy stuff my damn self but uhm...I actually have a career and need for the stuff).   OH, I must get this point out;When these two had their quickie wedding it was my husband who called himself being the "Best Man" who fed her rowdy...GREEDY family at brunch that day.  He has been there for his little brother no matter how ugly he has behaved and he couldn't get his big brother a decent gift? I mean sh*t...that jackass actually came into my house and asked to use my wrapping paper and ribbons to wrap a NICE GIFT for someone else and then dumped that sh*t under my tree.  It took me years to get to a point where I could find nice things to say about him, he was a spoiled brat and has only started acting like an adult since his daughter was born last year.  But this...this really puts me back a few years.  

I feel like this, it was rude on Christmas to give nothing to the kids.  That was ugly.  Screw us, give a little something to them, that gift thing is really about the kids.  That was mean and I don't get it.  And if it was about money (which I know it wasn't) again, give nothing.  THAT I can understand and would not be insulted by.  AND of all things...If your wife screwed up on the gifts then YOU get your brother something respectable.  Flimsy cotton jersey boxers...that sh*t is just wrong on so many levels for so many reasons, especially if she was in charge of  the gifts.  That's like me giving my brother in-law a jock strap! Uhm a lil too damn personal. 

Bottom line, I am not feeling my in-laws right now. As it were my birthday came they were with us for dinner, only a few weeks earlier I had given her the other gift card, I didn't even get a card.  I was okay with it.  I don't count other peoples money. BUT THIS.....this was just TACKY!!!!!!!!!!  And although I can keep a smile on my face and love in my heart...ya know the "human kind" love, not really personal but that love your fellow man kind of love... hey it's the best I can do right now...then I can  pull it off.  They will never know what I really think of them or how I feel about them. But I tell ya this much, next year we will get for the girls, and that's it.  Mother's and Father's day I will call and at best send and e-card.  No more wasting postage on a real card (I'm big on that, we have yet to receive one back, but whatever.)  Ya live and ya learn.  And I have learned that no matter how much you maintain being the bigger person over and over and over again, some folks just don't know when to step up and act like they have some damn sense.  

If I was them I would feel rather sh*tty.  But the funny thing is I know they don't. And that's really pathetic. DAMN I feel better now that I have gotten that out of my system.  Think me petty, think me not gracious.  But it is what it is, and I feel how I feel.  That was F*CKED UP!

 

I KNEW we should have just gotten her the damn robe!

It feels good to let it all out like that. Especially when if ends up being pretty funny. Sucks when some people in your life just don't get it. Eh, at least the pageant was nice. :)

Hey Jonas,
I can laugh about it now, but I was beyond TIGHT when I wrote that post. I mean DAMN. I did tell my mother, and she almost pissed her pants from laughing so hard. Take into account she knows the history of my dislike for dear brother in-law...she wasn't really surprised. But since he's been on good behavior for about 7 months now she was kind of disappointed that he backslid into his overwhelming immaturity. That is just shameful !

The moral of the story is keep your enemies close, and your in-laws at a DISTANCE! That way when the holidays come you don't have to deal with their mess! LMAO
~LBV